Bullied Into Silence

Bullying is a hot topic these days. Anti-bullying campaigns are found in almost every school; teachers, parents and kids are all fed anti-bullying pamphlets and information; and it seems as though the nightly news carries at least one story about a child being bullied at school. This is not a new phenomenon. I imagine that there have been bullies for as long as there have been people–think Cane and Abel. I am skeptical, however, that the strategies being used to curb bullying these days will have any effect. As a parent it did not take me long to realize that if I wanted my child to behave a certain way I needed to model that behavior myself. Any bad habits that I display are mimicked and mirrored back to me by my children. It is a great lesson in humility if we choose to learn from it.

No, the problem with bullying today is that it is not limited to the school yard and the adults of the world are not being very good role models. As much as I enjoy Facebook and other digital media resources, the ability for anyone and everyone to give their opinion on any and all topics has not really improved human relationships. It takes only a few moments of scanning the comments of any hot-button issue before being assaulted by personal attacks and slander uttered by people with differing opinions. Witnessing this vitriol has made me much more hesitant about expressing my opinions in circles where I am uncertain how the majority feels. I don’t like confrontation of any kind and I am a pleaser by nature. However, we are in the midst of a culture that challenges everything. Relativism is rampant and logic has been replaced by emotion. No matter the trend of the times, truth is still truth and Natural Law cannot be changed to fit our whims. But I digress.

The bullying extends even farther beyond comment boxes. Anyone who followed the happenings in Austin, TX over the abortion law vote and the proceedings leading up to it, witnessed mob mentality and bullying tactics. I am all for freedom of speech, but spreading out across the Capitol grounds and raising a raucous in an effort to disrupt the vote (after the filibuster failed) is not democracy in action; it is anarchy. Chaining yourself to the railings in a Senate hearing, trying to sneak in jars of feces, urine and used tampons to throw at those who oppose you is not freedom of speech; it is disrespect for the democratic process and bullying to try to get your way because you know the vote is against you. Many don’t even realize that the Capitol was on lockdown the night of the final vote and that Prolifers were whisked into Senate offices guarded by DPS because of threats to their lives. This is bullying, people.

But let’s not stop there. The current Administration of our federal government has implemented bullying tactics of their own. The main stream media does nothing to help stand for the people. It did not report the extreme circumstances in Austin and it will not report the whole truth on the Obama Administration either. We cannot have civil discussions about the Martin-Zimmerman case because it has been so exploited by the media and the President for political gain and distraction. We have hundreds if not thousands of cases similar to Martin’s death, but the President did not comment on those cases; nor should he. It is not his place to comment on case under investigation. We have a judicial system in place to handle it. And again President Obama commented on the vote in Texas when he tweeted that he stands with Texas women. Not his place. It was a vote at the state level for Texans to decide and the majority of Texans think that a baby that feels pain should not be ripped apart and forced from its mother’s womb with forceps crushing its tiny skull. Sorry to be so blunt here, but I’m really tired of being silenced by the bullies. Silenced by the media when 600,000 people march for life at Washington, DC and not one television station reports it with any accuracy. But, wait there’s more. What happened in Benghazi and why is there silence about it? Why were we lied to during the elections and then the topic avoided to this day? What is happening with the NSA recording our emails and phone calls and we hear nothing? How about the fact that IRS was specifically targeting conservatives and Tea Party people? This is all bullying. It is wrong and it needs to stop. I could go on, but I’ll stop here.

I’m not trying to pick a fight here. Really. I like it when everyone gets along and plays nice. But, just like dealing with the bullies in the school yard, I’m not going to just sit back and keep taking it. I’m not going to sit idly by and watch them bully people into silence. I’m going to stand up and speak up. Marriage is for one man and one woman. Sex is for marriage and within that bond, unity and procreation. Once created, babies have a right to live. Pregnant women have the right to medical care and to be treated with dignity, their birth choices respected and honored. Children have a right to a mother and a father who take active roles in their upbringing. I know that there are thousands of situations that are not ideal out in the world. I get that. We are humans and terribly flawed, but we have to aim high to achieve greatness. We can do so much better than we are doing if we could start by having logical and honest discussions about the issues at hand. Quit with the personal attacks. Quit with the emotional arguments. Let’s talk through it one logical step at a time and work towards rebuilding trust and respect in our country.

I’m an idealist, I know–an Illusioned Perfectionist, I admit it. I don’t want to be bullied into not trusting my fellow countrymen. I don’t want to think differently about the woman next to me because she is wearing orange, or the person who posts on Facebook with an equal sign as their profile picture. I don’t want to feel nervous that someone might target me because I have a sticker of my family of 10 on the back window of my Suburban, or because I am wearing a blue shirt, or am holding a rosary in my hand. But, if we can’t discuss things logically and in a civil manner, if we fail to respect Natural Law, and if we stop following the Constitutional Law of our country then the bullying will turn our country into chaos and all the anti-bullying, feel-good, zero-tolerance without common sense policies still won’t be worth a darn thing to our kids.